13th Jan2011

So, I’ve Got a Calendar

by medievalmom

I’ve never kept a datebook and scheduling seemed way too restrictive for spontaneous me.  But times, they are a’changing.

I went to a birthday party over the weekend and the hostess was a fabulous mom who made it all look so easy.  She was calm, cool, collected… and a mom!  Nay, a dissertating married mom!  According to her, the key to her success was scheduling!  So, I’m giving it a shot.  I have my datebook (going old-school for this one) scheduled out until March.  It’s color-coded with scheduled dissertation research and writing times.  Vacations are planned, doctor’s visits are set, and all of our mommy and me activities are listed.   

I’ve always been against such strict planning because of a fear of being ruled by the schedule… or too bound or obligated to stick to it – sort of the same feeling you get if you can’t keep with the recordings sitting in your DVR.  My fear is that it will be an added weight or problem because I can’t stick to it.  I like have free time to spontaneously say, “Let’s go to the beach or to Disneyland, right now!”  I know this might seem like a nightmare to some moms as much as a schedule seems daunting to me.  I also don’t want to turn into one of those families who are over-scheduled, or one of those couples on TV that actually schedules sex – whether warranted or unwarranted, these are my silly fears about schedules.  Still, I’m going to give it a shot for the next few months. I mean, it can’t hurt my dissertation, right?  Seeing as how I’ve written about twenty pages (that I’ve since thrown out) in about a year, I’m hoping that this scheduling business will work to my benefit.  And so far so good.  I’ve stuck to everything for three whole days!!!  If you’re a mom, you know how tough it is to find time for your work, in my case, it’s writing my dissertation. And scheduled writing time seems to be necessary if I ever want to finish the dang thing.  So, I’m going to give my new color-coded schedule the respect it deserves.  Let’s see what happens….