28th Jun2012

Adventures in an Italian Library

by medievalmom

Maybe I shouldn’t be writing this entry right now as my emotions might bias my assessment of the library (and because I’ve just left the scene of the crime, so-to-speak).   Let me explain.

Libraries have been a HUGE part of my life ever since I can remember.  A library, and all that it represents (learning, knowledge, history, opportunity, etc.), is an important cultural phenomenon.   I remember getting my first library card and how grown-up it made me feel. I’ve taken my girls to the library since birth for story hour and we’ve participated in summer reading programs.  I can’t say enough about the importance and impact libraries can have upon young lives.  I’ve even made special efforts to visit libraries all over the world.  And I practically lived in the manuscript department at both the Newberry in Chicago and the Huntington in San Marino while doing my Ph.D. research.

There’s just something magical that happens to me when I walk into a library; it’s the smell of the books and the centuries of ideas…all available and waiting for someone to enjoy!

However, I did not get that feeling in this little Italian library.  It’s an odd and saddening feeling to see books in such disarray.  To see some book shelves empty while other shelves displayed books thrown into a heap, this way and that.  To see that one guy, who seemed to have little more than zero interest in his job, was the only worker there.   He seemed to have that same sense of disenchantment or apathy that many people arrive at with regard to politics… that “what I do will never make any difference anyway” attitude.  Maybe he was new?  Maybe he was having an off day?  Maybe he was ill-equipped?  He had a hard time locating requested books, the computer wasn’t working, and when I asked about story hour for the kids, I was met with a shrug while being informed that they don’t do that here.

Is this how all the libraries are?  How is this possible? Italians have such a rich bibliophilic history!  I simply expected more.

Have I been particularly spoiled by my “American libraries?”

Now I realize I am in Italy, and English is a foreign language, but I was genuinely surprised to find only about six or seven children’s books in English and only about eight adult books in English… at least one of those eight was Jane Eyre.  But that’s beside the point.

As I glanced around, I saw teens casually looking over school work at a few tables, many texting or talking on their cells.  What I didn’t see what anybody else.  No moms.  No other adults.  No kids.  And no one in the stacks!  Staffed with just this one guy, I understood that the task of organizing and creating a beautifully functional library to serve the community was not a priority.  This was it.  You simply had to make do with what was there.  Take it or leave it… it didn’t seem to matter to anyone.

Goodbye Dewey Decimal.  Goodbye story hour.  Goodbye library as I have come to know you.

I can only hope for a better experience in the center of Florence.  (However, my experiences tracking down a manuscript in Florence for my M.A. thesis, and trying to gain access to another book in a library that has been under construction for more than four years, now seem to be painfully honest precursors to what I just experienced at the local level.)   Sigh.

*As a side note: my experience has inspired me to do something.  I’ve offered to start a story hour but was told that I must first organize this with the head librarian, whom I’ve yet to meet. *

04th Aug2011

Punky Brewster’s Got a Book

by medievalmom

Fellow mom, Soleil Moon Frye, is tackling the chaos of motherhood in book form!

Keep checking back and I’ll have an interview with her as the release date nears. But for now, you can watch the trailer or visit the Happy Chaos site.

Congrats to Soleil!

17th Jun2011

Angry Mamma Bears

by medievalmom

SCENARIO:
Closed-room music class for babies and toddlers. Enter a nanny with a toddler. Nanny tells the teacher that she wants to keep the child’s shoes on (shoes are not allowed) because the kid is sick. The child starts coughing in a way that sounds like croup or whooping cough or who knows! I look at the teacher, who asks me if I heard that cough. I say yes, and that it sounded pretty bad. The teacher then asks the nanny if she can come back and do a make up class because it’s not wise to bring a sick child into a closed environment with little babies and pregnant women. The nanny leaves with her charge.
End of story….

Or so I thought!

The next week the nanny returns with said sick child and sick child’s mother. OK… this kid is still coughing up a lung, but it sounds much, much better. So you can imagine how bad it must have been the previous week. After the class, the mom approaches me (in full-on angry mamma bear mode) and starts in about how I mistreated her nanny. How rude I was to her nanny. And that I should treat nannies the same way I would treat the mother.

WHAT?!?!?

I was so taken aback and shocked that I just let her talk. And then… something happened. I don’t know if it’s the pregnancy hormones raging through my body, but I was not taking her crap! I kicked into mamma bear mode too! I sweetly, but coldly, informed her that she d been grossly misinformed. (I can only conclude that the nanny must have told the mother something to save face for whatever reason.) I then proceeded to remind the mother that she wasn’t there and that she shouldn’t be attacking someone when she didn’t even have her facts straight. I let her know that it would be impossible for me to have been rude to her nanny as I didn’t even speak to her nanny and she could confirm this with the teacher. Finally, I gave her a piece of my mind noting that she should be ashamed of herself for sending a child that sick into a small closed room with other kids. (I remind you this was not the normal cough or sneeze of a cold… but was really, really bad. And when my daughter is sick, I never take her to her classes out of respect for other moms!!! We all know it’s hard when the little ones are sick.)

Normally, I’d curtail any confrontation and try to smooth things over. Not today. She got it good (but politely). I don’t know about you, but have you ever had those moments where you think about things after the fact and wish you would have said this or that, or had some great witty remark when you had been left dumfounded and speechless? Well, that did not happen to me today! I was so on the ball that she was taken off-guard at how quickly the tables turned. I saw in her eyes that she realized she was in the wrong. Now, I don’t take pleasure in this sort of thing, but today, it felt great! Who did she think she was? She obviously thought that she was going to go to class and put me in my place. Ha – was she ever surprised.

This entry was more of a rant than anything else, but I wanted to ask, what would you have done? How would you have handled this situation? What do you do if a mother comes at you like a mamma bear? Maybe you would have removed your own kid from the class, or not have thought twice about the sick kid, and then these questions are moot. I’m curious because 1.) it’s new ground for me and this is my first mamma bear confrontation; and 2.) it was obviously such a point of contention for that mother, so much so that she probably took the day off work to come (wrongly) berate me.

I only hope that she learns to question the things her nanny tells her. If the nanny lied about this, what else has she lied about?

06th Jun2011

A New “New Momversation” Episode

by medievalmom

Today we discuss how motherhood has changed us.  I don’t know about you all, but motherhood made me do a complete 180… for the better.  I’m more patient and I realized how simple it is love unconditionally.  It’s all about the baby and our little one rules the house, nay, our worlds. 

Check out the episode here: How Has Motherhood Changed You? 

Please leave me a comment and let me know how you changed once you became a mom.

04th May2011

That Pic I Promised

by medievalmom

As promised in my last episode of New Momversation (the one about how your home looks like a daycare when you have babes), here is the pic of what our living room typically looks like at the end of the day. Lately, it’s become even messier because I was brilliant enough to buy one of those inflatable toys with all the balls in it.  I think her favorite activity is to toss them out and watch me gather them up!

04th May2011

Making Time for Your Husband ( Or “Oh, yeah, remember him?!?”)

by medievalmom

So this week on New Momversation, we are discussing how we make time for our husbands. It’s tough and these poor men often get pushed aside during the beginning months of motherhood.  But… have you ever heard of SEXY SUNDAYS? Check out our latest epsidode at New Momversation.

30th Mar2011

New Momversation Episode Is Up!

by medievalmom

I’m writing on my phone at 12:22am from Italy (I have no Internet!), so apologies for not blogging lately. I do have lots to share though and I have preschool updates… but it’s too long to write by phone. Soon though. :)
Still, I wanted to share the latest episode of New Momversation! This time we discuss how we handle all the chaos that comes with a new baby. Enjoy! New Momversation

03rd Mar2011

Medieval Mom on New Momversation

by medievalmom

Please watch my first episode of New Momversation. I discuss some of the biggest challenges with a newborn! You know, things like food, sleeping, chores, and shaving your legs!